i have to admit...

I do know a very few girls who have NOT lied to me. I apologize to the one(s) that are frustrated with my tone the last few posts.

Generalizations are just the easiest way to get a handle on something, and it's much easier for me to process that "all girls lie" than it is for me to have to treat each girl as an individual and put an equal amount of risk in every relationship i have... my selfishness would rather that i simply not trust and not risk...

and if i don't risk

i might miss something


but that's another point all together. back to my original thought...



i think it is possible to speak without lying. that it is possible to live for months, maybe years, without having to omit a truth or preach a falsehood. this is an ethical statement, but it is possible that truth is ALWAYS the preferred option, despite initial pain or confusion.

i have told the truth in several specific instances the past 4 months in which MUCH pain has been experienced... but i would not change those times of freedom and liberation for the bondage that otherwise would have resulted... with each lie, one is bound to maintain it to some degree. With each truth, one is further experiencing the Kingdom of God... and that sounds really lofty and philosophical, but it's real. With every opportunity to speak truth and experience honesty and authentic community, the Kingdom becomes more real, on this earth as it is in heaven...

so, i'm thankful for the people i know who speak truth, regardless of the difficulty or the pain. i'm thankful for the freedom i experience when being true to who God has called me to be.

and thank you to those ladies who have not lied to their young men...